5 Signs She’s Out of Your League Part

The term “stay in your lane” was not coined in vain. I’m a firm believer that people need to be with people they have a lot in common with. It doesn’t mean that opposites can’t attract. It means simply some people need to be mindful of the people they date and avoid dating people who might ultimately be out of their league. (Two Part Series, see the first part here.

Here are the signs a woman is out of your league fellas:

1. She’s extremely attractive and you’re not. No way to sugar coat this. If you know damn well you aren’t a 10, please stop insisting that you need one. Nickels do this all the time. Insisting the woman they date be beautiful, slim, thick, long flowing hair, light-skinned, exotic, fit, flawless, and meanwhile they’re walking around looking like the Good Year blimp with bad dental records. Stay in your visual lane sweetie and if you’re paying her, understand the rules of engagement. YOU ARE PAYING HER.

2. She’s paid and you’re broke. When a woman has more money than you, understand that one of two things can happen: The first is that she will allow you to do absolutely nothing and to enjoy the benefits of being a kept man, you must do what she wants you to do. There is no negotiation on this, women with loot don’t have time to negotiate with you. If she has little or no respect for you, yet for some strange reasons wants to keep you around, you have to play by her rooms. Option 2 means you will constantly feel like a loser. Let’s face it, very few men can handle their woman making more money than them. it almost always leads to emasculation and ruins the relationship. If she comes from money and has never had to worry about it, you better have some serious ambition. But truthfully, if you come from nothing, her family will not approve and you might be used for sex or as a filler until the right guy comes along. Sorry, dude.

3. You’re socially inadequate. Women who have something going for themselves are usually a part of a bigger network. They are ambitious, determined and on another playing field when it comes to social status. If you’re not comfortable socializing with your woman’s circle, how would you handle the long haul? If she speaks intelligently while you’re splitting verbs every chance you get, you’re going to make yourself a spectacle.

4. She’s fresh off the runway and you dress like a scrub. If she’s dressed to the nines and you don’t even own a suit, you’re not on the right playing field. There are some women who will take on a “project” like you, but most don’t want to. Women want someone who is confident enough to take the lead and set the tone. This doesn’t mean you have to wear Hugo Boss every day, but you need to clean up nice and it starts with your wardrobe. Cleaning up a man’s wardrobe is an easy fix, but who you are is who you are.

5. She’s educated and you have G.E.D. This is one of the most important factors when it comes to playing in your league. Education is a big factor. Women who are highly educated usually don’t mingle with men aren’t–unless you are extremely wealthy. Notice I said wealthy and not rich (there is a difference). Like minds have more in common and there are just some things people with little or no education will understand unless they are extremely cultured. Sure that may sound a little elitist but it’s true. Conversations can be more interesting when you have more in common.


5 Signs He’s Full of S**t

Women often waste too much time on men who they think are good for them and ignore the ones that actually are. Having experienced more than my fair share of full of shit men, I can safely say the signs are always there. Social media has created a generation of social cowards–people who hide behind text messages, FB posts and email rather than deal with emotional issues head on. But the old saying “If a man wants you, there’s nothing that will keep him away. And if he doesn’t, there’s nothing that can make him stay.” If you’re sick of trying to decipher whether the guy you’re interested in or are with is full of shit, here’s how to tell:

1. He never calls and only texts or sends Facebook messages. If he’s not available on the phone, how the hell is he gonna be emotionally available? There’s something very impersonal about texts and FB messages. It’s like, “Oh let me see if this chick will respond,” type of thing. And many women do, they set the stage for relationship failure and it puts you in a box if you go for it. More than likely you will be APA (A Piece of Ass) for him. If he doesn’t have to make a real effort to get you, he’s not going to respect you in the long run.

2. He doesn’t ask you on a date, he just wants to “meet” for drinks or whatever. If he asks you to do this via text of Facebook, please know that this emotional coward is really full of shit. Men call and ask you out. They don’t send text messages. If he’s using the excuse, “I’m too busy” or “I don’t have time to talk on the phone”, stop having time for him. Granted a lot of men are not with the whole swooning on the phone thing, but be it a brief conversation or a full on rap session, a man who likes you will call you, period. Don’t let him con you with slick talk trying to make excuses, he’s full of shit, trust me.

3. He’s cheap as hell or wants you to pay for everything. I am a firm believer in playing with the hand I was dealt. If you are dealing with a great guy but he’s not financially able to splurge but he’s not a cheapskate either, don’t write him off, especially if he’s under 30. A lot of men are just coming into their own at 30, (yes these fuckers are learning late in life) so he may be on the come up at his job, some great venture or while he finishes law school or whatever. (Ambition is key.) But hey if this bastard just won’t pay for anything, it means he probably can’t or he’s simply spending his money elsewhere. There’s nothing wrong with going dutch, but if you find your wallet getting emptier than his promises, rid yourself of the loser immediately.

4. His sex game is all about him. Real lovers always ask if you’re satisfied, they never assume. Trouble is, a lot of losers in the sack have never been told that they were lousy in the first place. Some men are never quite able to hit your spot and when you try to tell them, they get defensive and blame you for everything. What a jerk. Who does that. Every woman isn’t turned on the same way and unfortunately a lot of men simply don’t know how to engage you with foreplay because they’ve never been taught. If he’s too much of an arrogant prick to learn what makes you feel good, he’s not worth your goodies.

5. He tells you. Whether you want to hear it or not, men let you know either blatantly or subliminally that they are not available. If he says any of the following, know that you have a better chance of getting struck by lightning than having a relationship with this man:

“I don’t have time for a girlfriend.” (Well if they have time to hang with the boys and have sex with you, they have time for a girlfriend.”

“I don’t want kids/any more kids.” (If he knows you do, he is saying this so you won’t get any ideas or ever even mention you want kids.)

“I’m going through something right now.” (Yeah so is the 99% of the world)

“You’re too good for me.” (No argument here, he’s right.”

“I’m not ready for a relationship right now.” (He’s not–at least not with you.)

“Things are good the way they are.” (Things are good as long as you do things his way. The minute you try to change, he’ll have a problem with you.)

“It’s not you, it’s me.” (What he means is, he’s full of shit not you.)

Run bitch, run!!

5 Types of Employees People Hate

The workplace can be like school. There’s the popular crowd, the shrinking violets, the champions and the people we wish would just fucking go somewhere. I’ve worked with people I absolutely loved and people I absolutely hate. When you talk to most employees they will tell you that these are the most annoying people to work with. 

1. The Office Snitch: Probably the most hated of all is the office tattle tale. This person is the one who runs to management for every little thing. The one who has to be informant about what people did or do, the one who will betray you at a moment’s notice. They have an uncanny ability to play victim when they tell though, they’ll act as if they’re so hurt or so offended and appalled by what someone has done. Unfortunately this can work against them just as much as it works for them. In certain environment snitching lets management know you can’t be trusted. No one likes a tattle tale and if you don’t believe that, look at history and see how many snitches have been ostracized from society. If you are the office snitch, you better be prepared to deal with a lot of hate and resentment form your peers. How to deal with the office snitch: Don’t. Do your job, keep your business to yourself and never say anything around them that you don’t want repeated. 

2. The Office Busybody: Ever been at work and no matter what time of day it is there’s someone who shows up and appears out of nowhere doing absolutely nothing? Office Busbybodies are always up to something, unfortunately it’s never what they’re supposed to be doing. They always have something to do but never get around to doing it. They’re a distraction to the highly focused and an annoyance to anyone who’s trying to get some work done. It’s like, “Sit your ass down already!” How to deal: Let them know you’re busy and you have work to do. Use your poker face and don’t engage them. When you start to ignore people, they’ll usually get the hint. If not, ask them if they wouldn’t mind speaking with you a little later because you have a “ton of work to do”! Ask them about their projects and how close they are to completion. They may actually realize they need to got sit their ass down. 

3. The Office Bitch/Asshole: Misery loves company. The Office Bitch/Asshole are miserable people. Nothing makes them happy, not having a job, getting a paycheck, nothing. They have a lot going on and act like it. Typically these folks are miserable in their personal lives and really hate everything about themselves. These folks live to make everyone feel as bad as they are. They use work as an outlet for their social inadequacies. How to deal: The key is to remain aloof with them. If this person is your supervisor, deal with them as little as possible. In other words, do your job, expand your network and look to move on and up. Working for an asshole or bitch isn’t easy and trust me, they will drain the life out of you if you let them. 

4. The Office Know-it-All: There’s an old saying. “One that knows everything can learn nothing.” Recently a friend told me about a loudmouth know-it-all in her work training class. The person had an answer for everything, allegedly had all this experience but was the main one fumbling when they got on the sales floor. Know-it-Alls are just as annoying as the Office Snitch because they’re always running their mouth. A lot of their information is wrong, but you can’t tell them that. They’ll find a way to argue their point and explain why their way is the right way even if it’s wrong. The Office Know-it-All has an uncanny ability to receive eye rolls and head shakes of pity from everyone around them, trouble is they never notice because they already know you’re irritated! How to deal: Shut them down. Change the subject, walk away or ignore them. You cannot argue with a fool and usually that’s exactly what they are. 

5. The Office Slacker: Slackers always have an excuse. They never have their work done on time, they miss work, show up late, try to guilt trip you, and basically piss everyone off. The slacker is the one who informs the team the day before a projects due that they are having trouble. They’ll wait until the very last minute then come up with some excuse as to why they didn’t do something. They are basically big babies who want to be spoon fed and pitied. How to deal: Hold their sorry asses accountable. Don’t let them get away with anything. Make them own up to their mistakes and if all else fails, have The Office Snitch tell on them. 

5 Signs She’s Out of Your League

The term “stay in your lane” was not coined in vain. I’m a firm believer that people need to be with people they have a lot in common with. It doesn’t mean that opposites can’t attract, but realistically, the more you have in common, the more likely you are to enjoy one another’s company. So if you’re eyeing a woman you think is absolutely great but you think she won’t give you the time of day, there’s a few ways to know she’s out of your league. 

1. She’s got an MBA and you’ve got a GED. No bueno. Inevitably this relationship will experience a mental turbulence because you simply won’t be able to keep up. If you barely finished high school and this woman is obviously serious about her education, what exactly are you going to talk about? Look at Phaedra Parks and Apollo Nida? He’s a pretty boy and she was the ugly duckling so she’s paying to play. This is fine if you have the type of woman who simply wants you to be arm candy, but most women want a man they can admire and look up to. They want to be proud of who he is and what he does. Unless you’re Richard Branson, your GED ain’t gonna cut it. And no amount of upgrading from her is going to turn a toad into a King even with a kiss. 

2. She’s making power moves and you still can’t figure out what you want to do in life. She’s goal oriented and focused. Meanwhile you’re still going from job to job while you try to figure out what it is you want to do with your life. Ultimately, she’ll leave you behind. Of course not everyone knows what they want to do all the time. It takes some of us years to finally find our niche. But if you haven’t even started, all you’re going to do is hold her back or get left behind. If you’re with someone who is simply much more advanced than you, be prepared to struggle. It may not be what you want to hear, but it’s more likely to happen than not. 

3. She dresses like she stepped off the runway and you look like you just left the frat house. She’s a class act and takes time with her appearance while you simply just throw on whatever is clean and wrinkle free. If she constantly has to check out your clothes before you go out and make sure you’re groomed, you’re not on your A game. Now don’t get me wrong, there are men who simply need tweaking and fine tuning with their wardrobe because they have simply been focused on other things. However, if you constantly look like you just rolled out of bed and she looks like she should be on the pages of Vogue, she’s out of your league sweetie. 

4. Her conversations are way over your head. You can’t relate to anything she talks about. You can’t hold a decent conversation with her without feeling ostracized. Or you simply just don’t get it. Intelligence can’t be bought, either you have it or you don’t and if you’re not able to hold your own on an intellectual level, you’re going to eventually run out of things–if there is anything to talk about. 

5. Your finances don’t meet or exceed hers. Money isn’t everything. But when you don’t have it, life sucks. If a woman really wants to be with you and you’re not necessarily in a position to wine and dine her, she’ll stick around. However, if you’re always broke, she’s going to feel used and not want to be bothered. And don’t think you’re a pimp if a woman is paying. It actually makes you look like a loser. I’m all for going dutch if I know my man’s strapped, hell I’ll even pay. But men are supposed to be providers and providers lead and take care of their woman and family. It’s not cute to have a woman taking care of you. Grow some balls.